Comfort the Hurting

 

You are going to have those times in you life when someone close to you gets hurt emotionally or physically. It could be a friend break up with a boyfriend, someone has a miscarriage, loss of a loved one etc. I've had multiple of these happen to people I know, and sometimes I just don't know what to say, act, or do. But I found some great things that help me to comfort people in a great, loving, and caring way.

Listening. Yep, that is hard a lot of times. You want to tell them what they did wrong or someone else did wrong, or just give them some plain old advice. Well advice and correction come in time. First you listen. Listening can be one of the best ways to support your hurting friend. Just to be their, sit with them, listen to them, and comfort them.

Identify with them. Sometimes you think that, wow, Kathy is like crying about that stupid boyfriend she had and he was like a jerk and a bum. Well, that's a bit harsh. You need to imagine yourself in their shoes. They had a guy who paid attention to them and made them feel special then dumped them. That is so hard, and if you just try to imagine what it would feel like to be them at that second then you can know how to comfort them better.

Give a gift. Sometimes just doing a little thing for them like giving them a gift or something will show them that you really care for them. They will know that someone is their to talk to and that they are not alone. Give them bible verses that can encourage and comfort them. 

These are the ways that we can comfort hurting people the right way. And it can be so hard sometimes to listen, identify, and care with little things. They might not seem like big things to you, but really you have no idea how much this shows someone you really care about them.